Tig Notaro on Being the ‘Not Favorite’ Parent, Forgetting To Come Out to Her Kids | The Parent Chat

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0 April 30, 2026 07:01

Tig Notaro, comedian, writer, actress, and mom of twin nine-year-old boys, sits down with Dylan Dreyer to talk about the viral moment her sons discovered she was gay and the decision to cut back on touring so she could be more present at home.

She opens up about being the "not favorite" parent for years, how her wife Stephanie quietly transformed the way she disciplines, and why she never read a parenting book before her boys arrived. Plus, the words her stepfather said to her that she’s never forgotten, and the field trip story that genuinely made her emotional.

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0:00 Introduction: Trusting Your Parenting Instincts
1:20 Meet Tig Notaro: Comedian, Writer & Boy Mom
2:00 Twin Boys at Nine: One Athlete, One Future Comedian
3:13 The Moment Tig’s Sons Found Out She’s Gay
5:41 "It’s Just Her" — When You’re Not the Favorite Parent
7:47 How Coming Off the Road Changed Everything
9:00 The Magic of One-on-One Time with Your Kids
10:00 "When Mare Is Dead": The Family Joke That Was Born from a Mishearing
11:24 Discipline: How Stephanie Changed the Way Tig Parents
14:24 Winging It: Neither of Them Read a Single Baby Book
17:20 What Do You Hope Your Kids Say About You?
18:07 The Life-Changing Thing Tig’s Stepfather Said at Her Mother’s Funeral
20:18 Zooming In vs. Zooming Out: Knowing When to Let Things Go
21:00 Why She’ll Never Tell Her Kids to Stop Crawling Into Bed
22:17 Parenting Confessions
23:33 Spicy Parenting Take: Eminem & Kendrick Lamar, Uncensored
25:00 The Parenting Win That Made Tig Tear Up
27:00 Takeaways